Hey guys. I’m going to be totally honest. I originally had a completely different post planned for this week, but I wanted to change things up. I got to thinking about how my mom is probably one of my best friends. We are so similar and we always have fun together. She’s the epitome of fabulous. So today, I want to share 10 Things I Learned from My Southern Mama.
1. If you’re wearing lipstick, you can wear just about anything.
Ok, well maybe not anything. Like…wearing pajamas to Wal-Mart is never acceptable in my book. BUT, I remember my mom always telling me if I was wearing a color that maybe was too light for my skin tone, or was just a bit too neutral, she would always say,
“Put on some lipstick and you’ll be good.” Well, it really is true. Lipstick can just completely brighten up your look, and it always makes you look put together. Southern ladies always have a tube of lipstick on hand.
Read more about my fave beauty products here.
2. Be thoughtful
My mom is the kind of person that will go above and beyond for someone, but doesn’t expect a thing in return. She’s the kind of person who will pick up a gift for someone because she saw it and it made her think of them. And I think she is the reason why I love giving gifts! She taught me the importance of not just picking up a gift card (don’t get me wrong, sometimes a gift card is just fine!), and that picking out a gift personally for someone really makes a difference. Even helping people when they don’t ask, or just doing something nice for someone because they don’t expect it. Definitely so important.
3. Always write a thank you note
This is something I am always trying to improve on, but I know is so important. My mom always stressed thank you notes when I was growing up and now I always have a stash of thank you notes in my desk. It really makes a difference when you buy someone a gift, or do something for them and they send you a handwritten note to let you know how much they appreciated it. It’s just a nice gesture that really says a lot.
Read more about my stationery stash here.
4. There’s no such thing as being overdressed
Fashion has always been important in my house. Mom is always put together, and she taught me how to have great taste from a young age. One thing she always told me is to dress better than you think you should. But it’s so true. You only get one first impression, and whether we like it or not, people are visual and they remember how you present yourself. I have always valued being well-dressed, and I am always happy to put on a cute outfit for any occasion.
5. Family is the most important thing
I am a HUGE family person. I have grown up with family being a huge part of my life. My mom always emphasized family time when I was growing up, and not just our immediate family, but extended family too. I will always cherish those good memories I have of girls trips or holidays spent surrounded by family! I am so thankful and blessed to have been taught the value of family, and to truly have such a strong support system in my life.
6. Presentation is Key
Whether we like it or not, the way things look matter. Whether it’s how we dress, how we decorate our homes, how we put together our resumé, or the servingware we use for our dinner party, it’s all about the presentation. People appreciate a good detail, and it’s the little details that make you stand out. Going the extra mile to make everything look neat and put together really makes the difference.
Read about my office makeover here.
7. Manners are a lost art
Where do I begin with this. If you know anything about the South or if you’re from the South, then you KNOW that when it comes to manners, Southern mamas do not play around. It’s always napkins in your lap, yes ma’am, no sir, please and thank you. In a world that can sometimes think that “old fashioned manners” aren’t important, I am happy to have a mom who taught me how important they really are. Proper etiquette goes beyond keeping your elbows off the table, it’s how you communicate with people, it’s showing respect to your peers, it’s knowing when to speak, and more importantly, when to hold your tongue. People always notice good manners, and they will always remember how you make them feel.
8. If you don’t have time to do it right, you must have time to do it over.
I think I have this quote burned into my memory, because this is something my mom ALWAYS said to me. I’m so glad she did though, because we all have our lazy moments. It takes twice as long to be lazy and do something half-way then it does to get the job right the first time. There’s something to be said for doing a job right for the first time, and exceeding expectations. Having this mindset really will take you far in life.
9. Go for your Dreams
I am so thankful that my mom has always supported my dreams, and she has always instilled in me to go big and chase after my dreams. Most moms would not be so welcoming to their daughter going to college for fashion, then changing majors to advertising, pushing them to study abroad, to move away from home, you get the idea. Basically, she’s always encouraged me to follow my dreams and is always making me believe I can do anything, as long as I work for it.
10. You create the life you want
This is sooo true. Mom always knows best. If mom taught me anything, it’s that we are in charge of our own lives and we can make our dreams happen for ourselves. It’s all about working hard, and never giving up. We are in the driver’s seat of our own life, and we can always choose the path we want to be on.
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Mom’s always know best, which is why I still call my mom for everything. You’re never too old to need your mom or ask her advice, and you definitely never forget all those little mom-isms that she would always remind you of growing up.
What are some of the lessons your mom taught you that you’ll never forget?